The Wedding Season or “The Fifth Season” in Pakistan is on its peak and I am sure most of you must have attended some dozens of weddings by now. I have no intention of bashing the institution of marriage, I just want you to all to make informed and well thought decisions because for me marriage is the most important decision of one’s life and it has the power of making you soar in the sky or drowning you in depths of despair.
1- Don’t get married if you’re looking for financial stability. It’s 21st century and though it’s nice if someone pays your bills don’t get dependent on anyone. Do it full time, half time or anyway you like but DO something.
2- Don’t get married because you’re of an age. There’s no perfect age for marriage. Marry only when you’re mentally prepared and ready for it.
3- Don’t get married because everyone else is. I know it looks lucrative and tempting but you have to stand up to this peer pressure. If you don’t, things can go from bad to worse.
4- Don’t get married if you don’t have compatibility with your partner to be even if you’re engaged or your wedding date is set. The lack of compatibility can lead to disharmony and arguments. You can’t live a happy life if you’re not compatible.
5- You shouldn’t get married if you cannot take your own responsibility. Firstly you have to be self sufficient. If you cannot take care of your own self how can you take care of your spouse. It applies to both girls and boys. We often
6- You shouldn’t get married because your parents are forcing you. It’s your life and should be the one steering it’s course. Only you know what makes you happy and whether it’s right time or not.
7- Getting married because you think it’s an obligation and be done with it is the worst mistake you can ever make. It can make or break your life and you. All people are not meant to be married and yes they exist and don’t deserve to experience it and regret it.
8- Don’t get married if you take it as an escape from your life. It will only disappoint you because marriage comes with its own set of challenges.
9- Don’t get married if you’re attracted to someone based on their physical appearance only. Your desired trait may fade away with time and would bring you only disappointment and disillusionment.
10- You should not get married because it’s an achievement and since everyone is getting married and having babies you feel left out. You don’t have relatable gossip material, when your friends are talking about #couplegoals and #loveisintheair you sit there staring. Do it when you are ready for it. You want to cherish it and not turn it in some sort of competition.
